Divorce Negotiation: A Bigger (Sweeter) Pie

According to Huffington Post divorce columnist Diana Mercer’s article, it’s perfectly natural to fixate on specific financial goals like holding onto your hard-earned assets, 401k or social security funds, during the divorce process.  However, it’s advisable to set a goal toward coming out of your divorce financially secure, and to retire the way that each spouse planned before a divorce agreement was reached.  A divorce attorney can help plan several ways to become financially secure, as individuals.

Divorce settlements, especially divorce mediation, are about compromise, but Mercer says it’s also important each party secures his or her financial goals by giving in on their lesser goals.  In a divorce settlement there is never a single solution. A divorce attorney can help you to think creatively without limiting yourself and depleting  your funds.

One of the most important questions to ask your spouse during the divorce process is, can you “help me understand why that is important to you?”  It is important to consider your spouse’s position and to be willing to listen to it, because this will go a long way later on in life.