A recent study commissioned by UK law firm Slater & Gordon explores the state of marriage in the modern age. The study surveyed 2,000 married people on their deepest feelings about matrimony, divorce and the consequences of both.
Of those surveyed, a fifth described themselves as “trapped” by their marriage, and would decidedly end it, if they could only be assured of a secure financial future.
One quarter of the married people surveyed claim that they are not “in love” with their spouse anymore, and one in ten described their marriage as completely “loveless.”
The study also revealed that one in three women has at one time or another seriously considered ending their marriage.
Reasons for staying married, despite strong inclinations towards the alternative, included financial security, emotional hardship, and familial responsibilities. Frustrations voiced ranged from issues with sex lives to an over concern with money to a lack of fun.
Many do not have the courage to divorce, despite the circumstances, whether it be to avoid the above problems, or simply an overwhelming fear of being alone.
An alarming number (more than 50%) feel that their spouses take them for granted, and one in three have doubts about their marriage being “until death do us part.”
Four out of ten state that their marriage has continued to meet their pre-marital expectations, which seems higher than one may think, given the general tone of the study
Those surveyed were also asked to score their marital satisfaction out of 100% — the average score of those surveyed was 71%. This ratio is simultaneously discouraging and hopeful, given the rate of dissatisfaction voiced throughout the survey.
Similarly, 65% feel they married the right person, while 15% wishing they had married someone besides their spouse. One third of those surveyed wish it had worked out with a previous partner – lending credence to the old adage of “the one that got away.”
29% went so far as to say that they would advise the younger generation against getting married.
Divorce is a difficult decision, and while the numbers from this study can seem discouraging, they also expose an unfortunate predicament. Many people often times remain in unhappy or unhealthy marriages out of fear, obligation or guilt. If you are considering a separation from your spouse and want to discuss your options, Fields and Dennis can provide valuable insight in to your choices. You deserve to be happy, and sometimes pursuing that happiness is the hardest choice to make. Divorce is never easy, but sometimes neither is the alternative.